Why are girls extremely attracted toward me: is it physical attraction, personality, humor, high morals, or something else?
You might say, “why does it really matter why girls like me? They like you so congratulations!” However, I’m not like it! I’m always suspicious of why people like me or if they are trying to manipulate me into something. You can easily show interest in someone and not like them. I always like to get to the root of why a person likes me.
I couldn’t agree with you more Ben Stiller. If you base your feelings on just their looks, that friendship or relationship will be incredibly shallow, which is not what I want. So girls have always told me that I’m extremely handsome especially if I am in a suit and tie. If you’re not into tall, dark hair, muscular kind of guys…you probably wouldn’t like me but most girls like that. Even college girls have tried to flirt with me!
So I get a lot of looks but I kind of ignore them. Most INTJ’s in high-school are not even into dating. It’s honestly a waste of time when you think about it. I don’t want to have a girlfriend but I’m okay having a girl who’s a friend. This is a filter of mine that has served me quite well. I’m perfectly fine with being great friends with a lot girls, which I actually have more friends who are girls than guys. Guys are so immature at this age! Now this filtering will not work in college of course but before dating someone, I will need to be first friends with them!
So this brings me back to the point, am I just a guy that’s going to be like their “trophy boyfriend.” If so, I’m out of it! If it’s pure friendship, then I’ve got no problem with that and I will hang out with you as much as possible. It’s always those crazy insane girls that have a crush on me. I learned the hard way of what the difference between those girls and the good girl friends who I am interested in.
A lot of girls also like my personality, which is where I get my unique sense of humor. It’s very unique compared to other guys who are just mere copies of each other. My slightly mysterious self is intriguing. Once I let someone in deeper into myself, this filters a few of them out – especially the girls that were just interested in my looks. However, more than not, girls especially love my personality the most! My confidence in my self is also a big attribute of myself that they like.
My high-morals and standards are also a thing that people have to deal with. If you have high-morals and standards, you will come to love and respect me more! If you don’t and just want to have sex with me, you’ll be dropped. This is another filtering mechanism – I am able to see what your intentions are. People always say for us INTJ’s (mostly) to lower our expectations and standards, but this helps me get a sense of who you are exactly. If you’re intimidated by this, then you probably aren’t a good person.
Basically, if you just like 1 part of me, you’ll be immediately removed. I analyze people to figure out why they like me! This is what I’ve used and I have been very successful. This is why I don’t have friend or relationship problems so I don’t have “heart breaking relationship” problems. My friends who are girls know exactly who I am and that probably makes them even more attracted to me.
So yeah, I’m kind proud of who I am you could say. I’m never act cocky around other guys but I do realize that I’m highly desirable because of my full self – my full package if you will. I’m very diverse and this gives me the controls when it comes to relationships and dating.
Other guys either hate me for who I am or they ask me for advice as to how I do it even if they are good-looking. It’s quite simple actually! Respect and be genuine is the most important! Humor always breaks the introvert girls to be more outgoing!
If you’re a female, look for a guy who’s respectful and genuine. Don’t deal with any guy who’s not that way! That will filter out the idiots/jerks to the genuine guys who will love you for who you are.
As to conceal her identity (she wouldn’t want me to put a picture of her face anyway) I will just post a picture of what I had to eat on my date with her…I mean all of you girls would probably kill her to get to me …really to get to this amazing romantic meal I mean!
Okay, maybe I could’ve done a little better job of being romantic but we both love Asian/Chinese food. We prefer the informal setting more! I haven’t gone to Panda Express for a long time so when I had Beijing beef (it’s super spicy but great) my mouth…more my tongue was on fire!
The small cups are like this size( which is huge) but I had to drink so much water to cool my mouth down!
Picture from clog.dailycal.org
I actually shed a couple of tears, which she enjoyed since I am usually able to keep those tears in. “Aww…Stevie’s (don’t anyone else call me that!) getting all emotional.” Knowing that this would slightly annoy me she asked, “Am I as hot as the Beijing Beef?” As to which I quickly replied sipping more water, “Right now, you’re being as cold as this water. Not much sympathy I’m receiving here.” To which she replied, “Well, right now you need the cold water to survive…just like you need me to get more water for you.” She then quickly walked up to the water foundation and got me more water. Yeah maybe INTJ girls on the outside can appear to be hard but in the end, they do have heart! I would’ve done the same thing for her…except I wouldn’t have made any comments!
So yeah, it was a typical date that two INTJ’s have, filled with over-the-top emotions, small talk, on our social media/phones, and gossiping about other people…Oh wait, that’s not how we do it! Funny/sarcastic comments with deep questions occupied our date! Oh, but the meal was the
best ….I meant second best part of the date!
How is/was your Valentine’s Day?
Would you like it if your date took you out to Panda Express?
Well, it’s the new year and it’s always good to look back and see where you can improve. I’m going to look back in my life in 1st grade. I honestly had very high-standards for girls who I wanted to be in a relationship with. I was honestly WAY more extroverted back then then now. I was a bold one! Anyway, found this paper of what characteristics I would want in my girlfriend. My hand writing and grammar back then sucked so it’s going to be slightly hard for me to translate but I’ll try.
1. Foxy look!
2. Betwitching! WHAT was I thinking?? I wouldn’t want that now.
3. Alluring! “dimples and brunette hair are the best!”
4. Brilliant! “a Ph.D. wouldn’t be bad as well!”
5. Funny! “Can’t tell bad jokes! I get enough of that from my guy friends who talk about immature things like farts.”
6. Love sports! “Has to be a fan of the Wisconsin badgers.” I think that kind of cuts the list a bit.
7. Being original!
8. Doesn’t wear a bunch of various types of perfume. “bonus points to her if she smells like food because that always allures me even more to something or someone.” You know actually, there should be a perfume or cologne for what Subway smells like because that ALWAYS smells good.
9. Active! “Just doesn’t spend all the time sitting like a couch potato watching tv.”
10. Has a BIG heart!
What a list I have to say!
So to the girls out there, if you have all of these characteristics, please tell me! I’m still trying to find my “perfect soul mate.” Just kidding!
Enjoy the new year!